Many of you have been together for years and are looking for a way to propose. And that's exactly the point: the way. It isn't easy to propose without seeming predictable and, above all, sometimes mistakes are made that are anything but pleasant for the person receiving the proposal.
Here are 6 mistakes to avoid when proposing
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Hiding the ring in food
Try to steer clear of this one. It's romantic in films, but as we know, films are a fiction of real life. Hiding a ring in an Easter egg, which might get returned because of the wrong chocolate flavour or, worse, end in A&E with a ring stuck in someone's throat, is not exactly what you're after.
A flash mob? Better not
Picture your future bride in a public place where a group of dancing strangers announces your proposal: it sounds more like a nightmare than a romantic proposal. Avoid this approach unless you're absolutely sure she would love a proposal of this kind.
Your partner loves sunflowers
For the proposal you've thought of a bunch of red roses, which represent passion and are your favourites, but she still loves sunflowers. It would be better to propose with her favourite flowers: don't think about what you want, think about what she might want.
Don't think only about your own tastes
Think of the proposal as something done for her, not for you. Don't get too carried away by the planning and by what only you like. If you were thinking of proposing in your favourite pub or at an event only you would enjoy, think again. Make sure it's a special proposal in a place that's special to both of you, not just to you
Try not to over-plan the proposal
Sometimes spontaneity is far more appreciated than an elaborate set-up. Everyone feels the pressure when they want to propose, but letting things flow naturally often puts you both at ease.
Don't make her uncomfortable
Don't be too busy chasing the surprise effect: your partner might be caught off guard. A relaxed, pleasant romantic dinner or watching a film together are situations far less likely to land you in trouble.
Frequently asked questions
How do you make an original marriage proposal?
Think about the tastes of the person receiving it, not your own: a place that means something to you both is worth more than any staged show.
Is it better to propose in public or in private?
It depends on the person: if they're reserved, a public proposal or a flash mob can make them uncomfortable. When in doubt, choose intimacy.
Can you have the marriage proposal photographed?
Yes: a discreet photographer can stay hidden and capture the surprise, then carry on with a short couple shoot.
